wessago

I'm actually comforted by my lack of belief in destiny or the meaning of things. You might think that if your friend had stayed 5 minutes later he would not have died. This is true, but there is probably another day in his life where if he had tarried 5 minutes or scratched his eye, he would have died for another reason. The web of cause and effect that makes up life is complex and chaotic, and ultimately meaningless. When I make a horrible mistake, I don't beat myself up if I did the right thing given the information I had at the time. I remind myself that I would have done nothing differently and I did my best.
I know that's not what you asked. But death is just something that happens. The concept is sad, but that sadness can't trouble you after death because the great game is over.